updated 07/16/2014 AT 3:05 PM ET
•originally published 07/16/2014 AT 4:00 PM ET
The usually forthcoming reality star, 29, has remained mum thus far about the tabloid reports, but a friend tells PEOPLE that Wilkinson “cries every day” and is holding off on making any drastic decisions regarding her marriage to Baskett, 31, for the sake of their kids.
“She wanted to throw Hank out but couldn’t because she is healing [from her daughter’s delivery] and needs help with the kids,” says the source.
According to the friend, Wilkinson found out about the devastating news from a phone call “right before the [report] came out.”