updated 01/21/2010 AT 3:00 PM ET
•originally published 01/21/2010 AT 5:00 PM ET
When Jennifer Garner has a problem, she finds a solution.
In a new interview, the actress admits she went to therapy after her divorce from actor Scott Foley because she realized she “had a lot of growing up to do.”
“I don’t like to argue. But back then, I couldn’t have a fight. I couldn’t work things out because I wasn’t able to say what I needed to say,” she tells Parade magazine, out Sunday. “It was a huge heartbreak for me. So I went to work on it. I started therapy.”
Now the wife of actor Ben Affleck, Garner says the superstar couple keep their romance alive by stealing, so to speak.
“You steal the time. You steal a date, you steal a kiss, you steal a whisper,” she says. “After the kids are asleep you well, you know. Whatever it is. You slip away for a night.”
Garner, 37, experiences the same emotional struggles many working moms do in trying to balance raising her two daughters, 4-year-old Violet and 1-year-old Seraphina, with her job.
“I hate to miss even one bedtime with my girls,” she tells Parade. “I understand that being an actress as well as being at home isn’t some heroic thing. That doesn’t mean it isn’t confusing or difficult – especially that question of how you find a balance.”