updated 01/22/2010 AT 9:00 AM ET
•originally published 01/22/2010 AT 10:00 AM ET
Two TV queens, one hour, no holds barred and it all airs Monday – when Rosie O’Donnell sits down with Oprah Winfrey and lets fly with the inside stories on her breakup after 12 years with Kelli Carpenter, her new girlfriend Tracy Kachtick-Anders, her home life with her four kids … and even menopause.
Gearing up for her Jan. 31 HBO special A Family Is A Family Is A Family: A Rosie O’Donnell Celebration, a documentary that challenges the traditional ideas of family, O’Donnell, 47, talks about co-parenting with Carpenter since their breakup.
The two had four children together: Parker, 14; Chelsea, 12; Blake, 10; and Vivienne Rose, 7.
“Although we co-parent,” says O’Donnell, “we share equal time but we’re never really without them. Some are here. And that’s the way we did it. It’s free-flowing, and we do nights together, too.” Explaining that Carpenter “lives nearby,” O’Donnell also says that is still “not close enough. I wanted her to live in the same town, and she was, like, ‘I don’t know how good that’s gonna be for me.’ Like, what are you saying? You can’t exist – okay. Calm down. Breathe. Everything’s okay.”
On what attracted her to her new girlfriend, the Texas-based artist (with six children of her own) Kachtick-Anders, O’Donnell says, “So she got out of the car in Miami and I was, like, zoinks, you know, because she’s absolutely gorgeous and, I don’t know, I felt like I knew her right away. It was very odd.”
“So are you gonna move to live together?” asks Winfrey.