updated 01/11/2011 AT 3:00 PM ET
•originally published 01/12/2011 AT 7:55 AM ET
The couple were in the thick of putting together a glamorous Nashville event when suddenly they realized bigger wasn’t better – and that they were getting lost in the process.
“When two people get married, it’s not about the glamour,” Pickler, 24, tells PEOPLE. “It’s about the bride and groom and God.”