updated 09/01/2011 AT 5:15 PM ET
•originally published 09/07/2011 AT 1:00 PM ET
Reese Witherspoon seems to have it all – a successful career, two beautiful children and a loving new husband – but the actress admits she’s suffered some difficult blows.
Witherspoon, 35, filed for divorce from Ryan Phillippe in 2006. She calls the break up “really traumatic” and worried about the effect it would have on their two children, Ava, 12 this month, and Deacon, 7½.
“I was hard on myself when I got divorced. And until I got remarried, I don’t think I realized how stressed I was,” Witherspoon says in the October issue of Marie Claire. “I don’t think I recognized how anxious I was about being a single parent.”