updated 09/13/2011 AT 7:00 AM ET
•originally published 09/13/2011 AT 2:05 PM ET
Move over, Mike “The Situation” Sorrentino.
“I’m exhausted,” the actor, 40, says on Tuesday’s The Ellen DeGeneres Show. “I’ve been dancing for like, five hours a day. It’s amazing. Every bone aches.”
“I’m starting to get a little ‘Situation,’” he quipped about his emerging six-pack.
“I did it because I love dancing,” he tells DeGeneres. “It’s part of joy. A lot of the themes that are involved with dancing are involved with sort of my way of life now. Balance, staying connected to your core, being in touch with everything around you, the flow of life.”
Though he and Cox seem to be getting along fabulously, DeGeneres asks Arquette point-blank if his drinking contributed to the breakdown of their marriage.
“We had grown apart for quite a while, and I was just really heartbroken over it,” he admits. “I used it as an excuse to accelerate my drinking.
He adds, “You know, to be honest, I didn’t want to live anymore. I was just so heartbroken and distraught and my family was broken. I didn’t know how to deal with these feelings.”