updated 03/15/2012 AT 9:00 AM ET
•originally published 03/15/2012 AT 7:30 AM ET
“I want to look sexy for him,” the country starlet, 29, tells Self magazine in its April issue. “And I appreciate that he wants to look nice for me, too.”
And it sounds like her efforts are working.
“I get texts from Mike when I’m on a red carpet that read, ‘You’re so hot,’ ” Underwood says. “I like that. Words of affirmation mean a lot to me.”
Although there are times when Fisher, 31, questions the short length of some of his wife’s wardrobe choices, Underwood says, “He would never tell me I can’t do or wear something or make me feel bad.”
Even so, Underwood says, “I m a married lady now, so I try to be respectful of my husband.
But life with her significant other isn’t entirely flawless for Underwood, who told PEOPLE in September that having a husband is better than people warned.
“[Mike] would rather go out to restaurants than eat at home,” she griped. “It makes me mad! I really enjoy cooking and eating together at home. If he’s watching TV and I’m cooking, I’m like, ‘Hey, you’re being lazy, come help!’ ”