updated 08/13/2012 AT 3:00 PM ET
•originally published 08/14/2012 AT 8:00 AM ET
“I live by the mantra that God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle,” says the former American Idol judge and PEOPLE’s 2011 Most Beautiful, who, according to InStyle’s September cover story (on newsstands this Friday), has reached a crossroads in her life – a result of her 2011 split from her husband of seven years, Marc Anthony.
“It’s not until something bad or difficult happens that you really get to grow,” says Lopez, 43. And, at that point, “You realize: There’s no reason to be terrified of things. Either way I’m going to be OK.”
The magazine reports that as a single mother of 4-year-old twins Max and Emme, Lopez will now concentrate on being an entertainer, an entrepreneur and a self-proclaimed romantic who mixes business with pleasure.