updated 10/19/2012 AT 3:35 PM ET
•originally published 10/19/2012 AT 4:20 PM ET
The actress married Charlie Bigelow on Saturday in Carmel, Calif., Donovan confirms to PEOPLE.
“After meeting three years ago in Sayulita, Mexico while vacationing with friends, we are thrilled to report that we were married on Oct. 13,” the couple tell PEOPLE exclusively. “We credit Charlie’s friend Owen for waving Elisa in from the beach in what would be the moment that changed our lives.”
The bride, 41, wore an Elizabeth Fillmore dress and Jimmy Choo shoes while the groom, 36, donned a Burberry tux for the sunny outdoor ceremony on the Vineyard Lawn at The Carmel Valley Ranch.
Donovan, whose brother Marc walked her down the aisle, admits she “cried through” the wedding, drying her tears with her “something old” – a hankie belonging to her late father. Featuring a reading of work by Rumi, the ceremony was capped off by a sharing of wine, from which Bigelow took an extra swig.
Among their 150 guests: True Blood’s Sam Trammell and his longtime love Missy Yager, Bruce Ferber, executive producer of Donovan’s sitcom Sabrina, the Teenage Witch, and one very special little lady – the couple’s infant daughter, Scarlett Avery.