updated 11/02/2012 AT 9:00 AM ET
•originally published 11/03/2012 AT 9:05 AM ET
She knows, deep down, that’s not a good thing.
“What is wrong with us girls?” says Garth, 40. “It’s not like I want somebody to treat me badly. I want somebody who looks like they could treat me badly, but then really treats me good.”
Garth split from husband Peter Facinelli, the father of her three girls, earlier this year. She has since lost 30 pounds and has a fresh outlook on life. But that still doesn’t mean she’s comfortable dating yet – despite having been linked with real estate agent Jason Clark and photographer Noah Abrams.
“I would rather lick the bottom of my shoe than go on a date,” she says. “The minute I think I’m ready to start dating, then I realize, ‘Oh no you’re not.’ I just don’t know how to date.”
But maybe that’s not a bad thing. She’s focused on herself right now anyway, not other people, and that’s helped her recover from her tough year, and is evident in her healthier body.
“Every time I saw myself in the mirror, I was just sad,” she says. “I was going through this, whatever I was going through, and I think a lot of women can relate to that. You stop focusing on yourself.”
“I’m all about focusing on my kids, but I realized that I was using that as sort of a mask or an escape, so that I didn’t have to focus on myself. And so now, [I’m] turning and looking at myself and thinking, ‘What do I need for myself today?’ or ‘How can I keep myself healthy?’ ”