updated 02/06/2013 AT 8:45 AM ET
•originally published 02/06/2013 AT 11:30 AM ET
Design star Nate Berkus says gaining his father’s trust and respect as he explained that he was born gay – and it wasn’t a choice – changed their relationship and helped him move forward in his life.
“I asked my father: ‘Do you trust me? Do you respect me? Do you think I’m smart?’ He said, ‘Yes,’ ” Berkus, 41, tells Winfrey.
“I said, ‘Why would I choose to make my life more difficult – why would anyone choose to make their life more difficult? Do you think I would choose to have this hair? Do you think that I would choose to be 5’9”? I would have been 6’1”. It’s the exact same thing. The truth of the matter is being gay is the way I was born. I believe this to the core of my being.’ ”