07/30/2013 AT 9:45 AM ET
Life doesn’t always go as planned. But in the end, you can simply choose happiness over sorrow – and family over isolation.
“You can undo a lot of things [as you get older],” the actress, 44, says. “If you’re not happy, you can become happy. Happiness is a choice. That’s the thing I really feel. Like with friends who refuse to get happy, who refuse to rise above the discomfort of where they’re at.”
At a certain point, Aniston says, you realize that “you actually deserve to have a family. And once you meet yourself, and truly love yourself, then you attract that. And look – I mean, the two of us have found these two, beautiful, loving, open people.”
To which Sudeikis, 37, who is engaged to Olivia Wilde, replies: “We both went through the same thing. I mean, I would hear you talk about [guys you were dating], and I’d be like, ‘Oh, f–k. I don’t want to be like that to somebody else.’ ”
“Yeah. Yeah,” says Aniston. “And look how far we’ve come! High five!”
On the subject of kids, Aniston says she and fiancé Justin Theroux are both naturally drawn to them.