updated 08/05/2013 AT 11:00 AM ET
•originally published 08/06/2013 AT 7:30 AM ET
Attention, guys! If you want to date Nina Dobrev, you’d better be smart, funny and not too vain.
Speaking to September’s Cosmopolitan (on sale Aug. 13), Dobrev talks about what she looks for in a man and explains that she prefers relationships to casual dating.
“You either have chemistry or you don’t, but a lot of what attracts me is a guy’s mind and humor and talent,” says the Vampire Diaries star, 24. “I need to get to know all those things before I fall for someone. I’m not a one-night-stand kind of girl. I’m a relationship girl.”
When it comes to style, Dobrev says the right man can look good dressed up or down.
“A man in a suit looking put together and dapper is very attractive, but I also kind of like the I-just-rolled-out-of-bed, a-little-bit-of-scruff, effortless, not-trying-hard-but-still-sexy guy,” she says. “If a guy spends more time looking in the mirror than I do, that’s a problem!”
She’s now looking for someone who is independent – and will let her be the same.