updated 02/06/2014 AT 4:00 PM ET
•originally published 02/07/2014 AT 7:30 AM ET
Sometimes, it’s not just children who go through growing pains.
Take for example Justin Bieber’s parents, Jeremy Bieber, 38, and Pattie Mallette, 37.
Over the past year and a half – and especially over the past few months and weeks – Justin has been in the news for all the wrong reasons. While he has shining moments of star likability (like this charity trip in Guatemala), he’s been on a tear of misbehavior from a DUI in Miami to causing a ruckus on a plane.
And while he is over 18 (he turns 20 on March 1), it’s only natural to wonder: where’s his mom and dad? The answer: still at his side – but possibly more as pals than parents.
“I know who my son is and I don’t always agree with every single thing that he does but I don’t necessarily have to address that with everyone else. He’s my son and I have to respect he is not going to want me going around being ‘that mom’ talking about his behavior.”
After his arrest on Jan. 23, Justin jetted off to Panama, where both Mallette and Jeremy were on hand (along with Bieber’s manager, Scooter Braun, and his mentor, Usher). The group’s approach was less iron fist and more shoulder to lean on: “They’re not confronting him but giving him advice,” a pal of the singer said at the time.
Jeremy, who had been with Justin in Miami, Tweeted his defense of his not-so-little boy: “I can protect my kids, but I can’t protect them from you or your lies. Believe in the truth not in the lies of the enemy.” He later added: “Proud.” Justin responded with his own glowing words about dad: “He’s taught me how to love, learn, and stay true to myself.”