updated 02/14/2012 AT 2:00 PM ET
•originally published 02/14/2012 AT 4:15 PM ET
Janet Jackson knows what it’s like to lose a loved one, and now she’s offering some advice to Whitney Houston’s daughter Bobbi Kristina on how to deal with the grief over her mother’s death.
“You have to come to terms at some point. You have to actually give it up to God,” says Jackson, who still mourns the loss of her brother, Michael Jackson. “It sounds so mean, but you have to move on. You can’t hold onto that because it can be very devastating.”
Jackson, who spoke to Anderson Cooper for an interview airing Monday on his talk show, adds, “Sometimes therapy is the best thing.”